In response to a comment of a response.

Well some things were said in cowprints blog that I read. Then I read the comments. And there was some stuff that was said and I was like, man I need to comment back, but it got really long so I was like, I guess I'll post. So here I am. Anyway go read the comments to find out the whole story. But here is what I had so far when I decided to write a blog:

"People, people please. I don't think that this love that she is talking about replaces God's love, but rather compliments it. Fact: Nothing is greater than the love of the Father. However, God uses people many times to break through and show His love to others. Also I think that marriage is something where it needs that self-sacrifice that she pointed out. Also if you read in Eph. 5, it talks about how husbands should love their wives just as Christ loves the Church (vs. 25). In verse 26 it even talks about how we should cleanse and make holy our wives. If you take that in context Paul was talking about how Christ made His Church holy and cleansed her in order to make her a radiant stainless bride, but this is talking about marriage, so in a sense, we as husbands need to make our wives clean and holy, through Christ, obviously we cannot make her holy because only Christ can do that but I think this is referring almost directly to how George wanted her future husband to break through her walls. True only Christ can do that, but he uses husbands to love her as He loved us. Pretty cool symbol if you ask me. So basically that was in response to Alie. On the other front iDan decided to analyze things, "Are girls really THAT insecure that they need a guy to make them feel any worth or freedom from pain?" No, of course not, that's not what she is saying. Let's be realistic here, in a perfect world (mainly heaven) there would be no pain, no dumb relationships that hurt, and no need to protect oneself emotionally from that hurt. However, this isn't heaven. Those things happen. I don't think it's because of insecurity that a girl would build up walls, but rather so they won't get hurt. That's not a security issue rathera not wanting to get hurt issue. Which we all do in some way but girls just do it more often (so it seems to me, could be wrong there). Maybe you've had some experience with girls that have shut everyone out so much that they are what you said, selfish and irritating. That's sad, but once agian not what George is trying to say, well at least I don't think so. What I think she is saying is that she, and other girls, put up walls from letting a guy get into that deep part of her heart. In Prov. 4:23 it says to gaurd your heart (once again, context: it is talking about sin and gaurding your heart from evil, the point however is that setting up walls is appropriate in certain circumstances). So the point is that those walls shouldn't affect everyday life or how others are treated in general but it does affect how easily someone of the opposite gender can get close to you. Maybe putting up walls like that is harmful, I don't really know, but I do know this isn't a perfect world where you need to protect yourself sometimes. Take that for what it's worth. And one more thing. When she says, "Instead, he'll want to take care of you, and remove the wall so that you won't be hurting anymore." I think* she's talking not about every hurt in every area of your life but rather the hurt and sting of a broken relationship. When you marry THAT won't be a problem anymore. Of course, they'll let you down and of course God will be there for you, but God does soveriengly place others, ESPECIALLY husbands and wives there to help you and love you and care for you. Not to take the place of Christ, but to give yourselves freely to that person and sacrifice like Christ. (If you keep reading in that Eph chapter it talks about how you should treat her as your body because no one would let harm come to their body). Alie and Dan I do know what you guys are saying and your points are valid...in another argument. God should always be #1 and no one should completely block everyone out until they are hard and cold and all about themsleves. But take that post for what it was. All it really said was, "Each one of you [husbands] must love his wife as he loves himself." Eph 5:33.


*I really don't know anything about what I just said, because I don't know George and I don't know her circumstances, this is just what one guy thought he could make of all this stuff and maybe I interpreted right. Sorry if I didn't.